Facing the truth about connections

Connecting with others is a scary thing, no matter who you are.  You don’t know who you are to them, and sometimes in the context of a new experience, you don’t know who you are to you!   We are all looking for an opportunity to grow,  and sometimes we aren’t aware of that search.  So we make connections lightly,  we keep our friends and family close and we go into scary experiences hoping that who we present to others is OK.   That seems like a risky way to make connections, but that’s how we do it.

I am an introvert,  so making connections to me involves finding something meaningful in common with the person or people I am talking with.  It’s very challenging to find something meaningful in a round of 10 minutes of networking.  It’s also challenging to find something meaningful in the first conversation you have with the parents of someone your kid is dating.  As adults we are always struggling to find a way to fit into the context of every situation.   No wonder we want to curl up on our sofas in our pajamas and ignore the whole world.  Between social media being a stream of lies and partial truths,  the endless streaming services serving up shows that range from horrendously raw to boringly polite we are swimming in a sea of input.

Relief is needed, so I went searching for it a long time ago.  As a person who didn’t feel comfortable negotiating any social situation,  I needed a map.  My chosen map was astrology.  It applied to everyone (it just needs a birthdate, time and location) and it was pretty consistent in it’s definitions of the signs, planets, and aspects.  It’s complicated, true, but a person in a panic everyday will do anything to relieve the pain.  So I learned it, and put it to use over the 30 years I was in college and then in the business world.  I can’t say it worked perfectly at first , it took years of studying how the different signs got translated into people’s personalities.  And it took a long time to accept that it was just a framework, not a predictive tool for how things would go.   I wasn’t happy about that last bit.

Today, the truth of making connections is even more hard to manage than it was 30 years ago, so the framework of astrology makes more sense as a tool to learn how you make connections, but also what you need to establish a good connection with someone else.  If you are someone who is fortunate enough to know how you make good connections, and what other people can expect from you then I am envious and you may not need astrology like I do.   But if you are someone like me, who sits and overthinks every social interaction like you are negotiating for the release of a hostage then my experience with astrology will definitely help you. 

The truth of connections is that our rising sign, our Mercury sign, and sometimes where the planets are in our natal charts tells the true story of how we make good connections and what kinds of connections work for us.  So we aren’t wasting our time trying to make something work for us that has a low chance of being productive.  With my Gemini rising I love to make connections and it took me a long time to realize that having a few great connections was more meaningful to my personality than having dozens of them. Together we can uncover truths like that about you and your connection mechanisms.